There’s a tradition (O-souji) in Japan at the end of each year to do a big cleaning before each year ends. This tradition takes place both in the workplace, and at home.
2017 has been a year of big changes for me. There were a lot of ups and downs. A lot of tears. A lot of growth. In short, a lot of making hard decisions in hopes of a 2018 that would make me happy. There were mistakes I learned from. Mistakes I shouldn’t have made. Mistakes I might still be making.
Now that the new year is fast approaching, I’ve really come to the realization that I need to be brutally honest with myself and the people in my life.
Can I see them making me happy in 2018.
Can I see them supporting my dreams and goals in 2018.
Can I see them making me a priority in 2018.
Can I see them helping me become the best version of myself, spiritually and emotionally, in 2018.
If I cannot see people doing that for me in 2018. If the likelihood of them causing me hurt, wasting my time, or stunting my personal growth is high, then I should leave them in 2017.
Yes, I’m afraid of the short-term pain, but I hope after everything that has happened this year, I have learnt not to postpone present pain into the future. I want to start 2018 with a clean house – to throw out all of the (metaphorical) trash and start with a fresh slate, full of potential and opportunity.
As with Osouji, it’s easiest to clean house when you do it in one big swoop. When you pick up your old, ripped stuffed animal and are reminded of all the happy memories, understand that those memories are still yours – but that you no longer need the toy. When you realize you haven’t made a happy memory with that toy in years, what are you still doing with that baggage?
So my dear reader, here’s to the end of 2017 and to a better 2018.
I hope you make the cut.