Signs you’re friends with a narcissist.

Not inspired by Donald Trump.

Ok … maybe inspired by Donald Trump.

 

Ah. Narcissists.

So charming.

So confident.

So exhausting to deal with in large doses.

I have had narcissistic friends for as long as I can remember. You probably do too – considering 1 out of 10 people in their 20s get diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Today, I thought I’d share some of my experiences dealing with narcissists.

 

10 Signs of a Narcissist.

  1. They are not hesitant to talk about themselves, but will rarely ask how things are going with you. Why would they? They honestly don’t care.
  1. They’re surrounded by new friends often, because people “catch-on” to their narcissism after a while and it’s easier for them to change friend groups than to change themselves.
  1. Their most faithful friends are likely people-pleasers, who have a low sense of self-esteem themselves and long for the approval of the narcissist. (A futile and co-dependent relationship)
  1. They can be ‘nice’ people, but it stems from their desire to act like a ‘good friend’ or ‘good spouse’. At their core, they don’t actually care about you but what you are able to offer them.
  1. Their fragile sense of ego means that any praise directed elsewhere is a direct threat against them. They are deeply jealous of the success of others.
  1. Underneath a charming and confident shell is a pit of insecurity – which they try to fill with external validation.
  1. Empathy is not their strong suit, but they can fake it if they have enough energy and time to do so.
  1. Their needs will supersede all others’. They will either overtly tell you so, or they’ll manipulate you into putting their needs first.
  1. Everything is about them.
  1. The narcissist does not want to hear the truth. As soon as you start calling them out, rather than self-reflecting, they will lose interest in you (your use is done) and jump ship.

Narcissists can be fun to be around, it’s just important to not be an empath around them or they will suck all the good energy out of you. Try not to manipulate them either, at their core they are wounded individuals who were over-coddled/left alone as children.

Also don’t be an armchair psychologist when you’re drunk and yell at them.

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